Internet Use

Invitations (e-vites)

Dear Miss SOS:

What do you think of an e-mail wedding invitation? I just received one and thought it was in poor taste.

Unless a person is getting married quickly and is unable to personally phone or issue invitations – and receive the response – in a timely manner through the postal service, (for example, the Bride or Groom is in the military and being deployed within the next few days), e-mail wedding invitations are distinctly on the “don’t-do-this” list.


Creating Wedding Web Sites

Dear Miss SOS:

I have a question for you to answer that I don’t see in your archives. I plan on having a wedding website to provide guests various details of my wedding. Are there any rules of etiquette that I should know before I post?

Yes, Miss SOS knows of many.

  • Keep it simple and user friendly.
  • Choose colors and designs that reflect the theme of your wedding day.
  • Avoid sharing intimate details and keep the site focused on the day of celebration itself.
  • Spell out all words (no abbreviations and no slang) so there’s no confusion by the generation reading the information.
  • Feel free to incorporate a map to the ceremony and reception venues.
  • For out-of-town guests, provide a listing of local hotels and inns in addition to nearby restaurants known for good, quality food.
  • You may list your Bridal Registry (with the appropriate links) but don’t make it the focal point of your site.
  • Electronic RSVP’s are acceptable but you still must include an RSVP card with the printed invitation that is mailed.
  • If you plan on sending out Save-the-Date cards, you may include the url of your wedding website, however it is not to be printed on your mailed wedding invitation (though you may add it as an enclosure card).